Children diagnosed with attention deficit disorder often act impulsively and have difficulty with “self regulation”. They don’t “stop and think” before responding. These traits make it difficult for them to restrain their own behaviour, particularly when they’re angry or frustrated (at which time everyone tends to act impulsively). As a result, children with weakness in attention, focus, and self-control often have accompanying behavioural problems and social difficulties.
To develop self-control and take responsibility for their own behaviour, kids diagnosed with ADD or ADHD need three things. First, they need to learn the essential life skills taught in the family workshops. These skills include learning to self-regulate and control their own behaviour, manage feelings of anger, communicate effectively, not let others provoke them, be easy-going, and to recognize and modify maladaptive thoughts. Secondly, parents need to implement the positive motivation programs outlined in Modules 1 and 2, to celebrate their child learning new skills and putting them into practice. Lastly, and just as importantly, parents need to set clear rules and non-punitive consequences as outlined in Module 1. Experiencing brief, non-punitive consequences helps a child train their brain to monitor their own behaviour, inhibit their own impulses, and use their new skill set to self-regulate their behaviour. This ensures the responsibility for a child’s behaviour rests with the child, not the parent.